Co-regulation: a Parents’ Superpower

Co-regulation: a Parents’ Superpower

Seven years ago a little girl was deteriorating from a plethora of mysterious symptoms. The most highly trained physicians and clinicians had no name for her condition, which also meant no treatment. Her Mom tried everything and felt powerless to help her. Thatโ€™s...

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๐—œ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—Ÿ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ดโ€ฆ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—œ๐˜€ ๐—œ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ช๐—ต๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—œ๐˜ ๐— ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ?

๐—œ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—Ÿ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ดโ€ฆ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—œ๐˜€ ๐—œ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ช๐—ต๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—œ๐˜ ๐— ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ?

๐—œ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—Ÿ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ดโ€ฆ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—œ๐˜€ ๐—œ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ช๐—ต๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—œ๐˜ ๐— ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ? Intentional living means understanding your fundamental beliefs and values and then actively living your life in line with those values. Tapping into those values daily is the difference between living life on...

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I Float Back…

I Float Back…

Iโ€™m floating down the river on my daughterโ€™s 14th birthday. Why am I so excited to be leading this group of teens? Why am I so happy? I float back... For as long as I remember, teens have felt like foreign creatures. Not foreign like โ€œthese kids have weird style and...

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I Failed Creating This Book

I Failed Creating This Book

Our book Forward-Facingยฎ Freedom is completed. For me itโ€™s reaching a developmental milestone, checking my first book project off my bucket list. As I was wondering what to share, I thought โ€œoh, I donโ€™t want to make it about me.โ€ But as I pondered further, I realized...

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From Strangers to Safety

From Strangers to Safety

From Strangers to Safety Jenny's experience in Forward-Facing Me I wrote this reflection in 2018, back when Eric Gentry was a relative stranger and I was just beginning my journey with self-regulation and intentionality. Since then I've had the privilegeย to lead...

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National Daughter’s Day…

National Daughter’s Day…

National Daughter's Day... What a privilege to be an instrument of generational change. With each milestone and opportunity they experience that I was deprived of, I'm grateful for the resilience that gives me freedom and joy to escort them through these stages. Girls...

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What does it mean to live for 16 years in one home?

What does it mean to live for 16 years in one home?

Our Dobson Ranch home of 16 years closed today in the smoothest transaction we could asked for. Here is a Jenny-style reflection of 16 years of "Place". What does it mean to live for 16 years in one home? I moved a lot as a kid -- 10 times between 6 and 16, so Iโ€™ve...

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The Voice Box

The Voice Box

No-Talk Rule - This foundational dysfunctional family rule demands children never tell the truth to outsiders and never speak up to their abusers. Blurry shapes floated in and out as I lay on the operating table trying to wake up. The smell of antiseptic burned my...

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We are Dented Cans

We are Dented Cans

Dented cans are cast aside, although they are not broken. A dent is not the canโ€™s fault, it did not decide to get dropped, or kicked, or mishandled. It just happened. The dent canโ€™t be removed. The dent is on the outside of the can, it cannot be hidden or disguised....

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The Threat of Peace

The Threat of Peace

The Threat of Peace Hypervigilance: The state of being highly alert to potential danger or threat I sat on the floor practicing my Forward Facing trauma techniques as I rubbed my hands across the thick bedroom carpet. Grounding myself in the present, I took a deep...

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The Friend of Love

The Friend of Love

The Friend of Love - Resiliency My best friend is moving away. Sheโ€™d been dropping hints for months, but I decided to retreat behind a wall of denial and hope for the best. The best was not to be. Ellen is moving, and there isnโ€™t anything I can do about it. We had our...

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The Stories We Tell Ourselves

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

The Stories We Tell Ourselves - Emotional Regulation My first grade year was the first time in my life I felt understood. I loved everything about school. The snacks, the smell of mimeographed worksheets, learning how to read and write, the playground, and most of...

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Orange Trees in the Desert

Orange Trees in the Desert

Fight or flight and emotional regulation The desert of the Southwestern United States has a strange, stark beauty all its own. Gorgeous sunsets, rock formations and deep canyons accented with spiky cactus resemble another world. If you grew up back east like I did,...

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The Thumb-Sucker

The Thumb-Sucker

Fight or flight: the instinctive physiological response to a threatening situation, which readies one either to resist forcibly or to run away. I thought I was safe. At four years old, I believed if I couldnโ€™t see you, you couldnโ€™t see me. I had secreted myself away...

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Facing My Fear With Forward-Facingยฎ

Facing My Fear With Forward-Facingยฎ

I'm afraid. Can I get there and back before dark? Now Iโ€™m in a rhythm, going fast, breathing harder, yet still able to inhale the Sedona beauty that never gets old. Last mile now. Steep ascent. Crisp air chilling. Sun descending. Iโ€™m here before dark and yeah, it...

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